The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever
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Hi there, it’s Michael, the author. You might know my previous book, The Coaching Habit. It was an unexpected bestseller: more than 700,000 copies sold so far, 1,000+ 5-star reviews on Amazon (my favourite: “I have plodded through many books that wish they could be this book”), a Wall Street Journal bestseller, and used by people and organizations around the world.
So I’ve been sweating on the follow-up. The pressure! The anticipation! But here it is, and I think you’re going to like it. If The Coaching Habit says, “here are the seven essential questions to be more coach-like,” The Advice Trap is about getting to grips with how to actually change your behaviour so you stay curious a little bit longer.
It sounds like it should be easy, but it’s not. You have to tame your Advice Monster, that part of you that jumps in to offer up ideas, opinions, suggestions and advice. And it’s taming your Advice Monster that’s at the heart of this book. But there are also some specific coaching strategies, particularly on how to focus on what matters most. There are tools to make your conversations, coaching and otherwise, irresistible. There are even resources beyond the book itself, including a one-year, free leadership program from a 52-person faculty of cool, diverse, and provocative thinkers.
In 2019, I was named the #1 Thought Leader in Coaching, and was short-listed for the coaching award by Thinkers50, the “Oscars of Management.” My work’s been featured in journals such as HBR, Fast Company, Forbes, and Inc., and my company, Box of Crayons, has trained more than 100,000 people just like you in the tools and mindset required for this essential leadership behaviour: being more coach-like. You’ll get all of that wisdom and experience when you read The Advice Trap. I’m pretty sure you’ll find it a great investment of your money and time. (And, by the way, thank you in advance for buying it. I’m thrilled to know the book is going out into the world.)
From the Publisher
Publisher : Page Two
Publication date : February 29, 2020
Language : English
Print length : 264 pages
ISBN-10 : 1989025757
ISBN-13 : 978-1989025758
Item Weight : 2.31 pounds
Reading age : 18 years and up
Dimensions : 5.3 x 0.7 x 7.45 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #32,274 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #16 in Business Mentoring & Coaching (Books) #150 in Business Management (Books) #228 in Leadership & Motivation
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12 reviews for The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever
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Lorne –
Pragmatic and life changing
My role is to implement systems through influence. Not having direct line control I found that I needed to change my approach to people to sell a new management system called Lean Manufacturing. Selling this system through telling, or even teaching, was a failure; people were not buying in.I needed help.Researching on how to influence people to adopt a system, I came across Michael on YouTube. Being curious, I watched a few of his videos. Then being intrigued, I bought “The Coaching Habit” on Kindle and Audible. A book beyond excellence that lead me to snapping up this book too.The Advice Trap, which is a seamless and reinforcing continuation of the former book, eloquently encapsulates the practicality and ease of understanding of what it is to be coach-like.I find myself continually referencing both books where I have “mind-mapped” and “process mapped” the learnings that I practice everyday.Although the concepts are delivered in an easy to understand way, and the concepts are easy in their own right, putting them to use requires practice, repetition, practice, repetition and so on of which Michael prepares the reader for. It is referred to as “hard change” where Michael, in his witty way, explains how to change.Both books have been revolutionary for me, and for this I am very grateful for Michael.
Belinda Keota –
Actionable insight to improve being a human
I love this book because:- His writing is clear, to the point and easy to read (this is not a business book you need to slog through)- The ideas are clearly presented in a way you can identify with.- It packs in a lot of value and actionable tips in a short read.I found this author by listening to the How to be Awesome at your Job podcast when he released his first book, The Coaching Habit. I loved that book and when this one came out, I knew it would be a great companion.I have a big advice monster and never even realized it could cause a problem for someone else until I heard read this book. While reading it, I started noticing how often I was doling out my “wisdom” and how it made people feel. I’ve even started practicing a few of these tips with my husband and it opened up some great conversation.Highly suggest reading this book and The Coaching Habit. Real game changers. Adding these to my top reads list.
Anna Ryan –
Great book for professionals.
Very helpful for anyone wanting to be a coach or a leader. Can be difficult to hold your attention, but overall really good!
Amazon Customer –
Empowering Tool
I feel like everyone in the world should read this book. It not only is helping myself to become an active listener with my kids, truly listening to what they are saying to me. It is teaching me to ask powerful questions, to wait…not answer, “stay curious” and see what the kids can come up with! The kids (or anyone for that matter) need to know they have answers and once they’re mindful to what’s going on they can develop a game plan to help themselves. It’s empowering for them and myself! Better communication equals better relationships all the way around. Empowering others just makes yourself more powerful.
#reviewer –
Learn how to coach from a “bring out the best in everyone” way.
This book was awesome. My job is a Scrum Master in project management, in which my biggest job is to coach others to be more effective. As a more authoritative “get things done” type, I found this book extremely helpful. While some coaching can be taken to the dark side of manipulation, this book comes from a lets bring out the best in everyone so they can be more effective type way. In addition, not only does Michael Stanier give great advice (lol), but he does it in a way that empathizes with the struggles people may have, including his own. When reading it, I felt understood and supported, which def increased my motivation to learn more. As a coach myself, I know how difficult this can be, it really is an art, and he is a master painter. Easy read, simple concepts (hard to implement, but simple to understand), and paired with real life examples. I also loved how he used his own examples and was vulnerable and open, he admitted his weaknesses and shared his struggles. He uses comparisons of the primal lizard gut feel brain versus where we want to go and who we want to be. Great book for anyone looking to understand why we feel the way we do when it comes to advice and coaching, and how to be more effective in your personal leadership skills. Thanks for your contribution to this world, Michael!
Elizabeth Chaponot –
What was most useful or valuable here for you?
This is a part 2 of sorts. Bungay Stanier wrote The Coaching Habit which popped up on a quick-read free book about the three best business books that would impact the way I managed a team. As I went to order the first book I saw that a new book had also come out by the same author. I ended up buying and loving both.The two books compliment each other and I would definitely read the Coaching Habit first. The Advice tRap however is not about the author refreshing old content, he actually goes deeper and offers ironically great advice.The text is formatted to make them easily readable, they are research-based and provide a wonderful chapter in case you want to read more on the given topic. There is also a website that connects to the books and helps flesh out what you are learning.At the end of the day, what you learn is actionable and I am eager to work with these tools and grow into some hard new habits!
Jay Wescott –
Great workable ideas!
Great ideas to practice.
Kindle Customer –
100% fantastic book. I couldn’t put it down. Michael style of prose is perfect. Anyone can read this book and understand the messages he is portraying. It’s written from the heart and I can imagine this is how it is if I was in a room learning from him in person. There are so many amazing strategies that are so simple. Can’t wait to put them into practice.
Smiffey Girl –
Love the upfront irony of writing a book about taming the advice monster. This book is aimed at anyone and everyone who wants to enjoy better relationships. Recognising that when someone is asking for your thoughts or advice often they just need the time and space to think it through for themselves and the answer arrived at is much more powerful and likely to be acted upon when that is the case. ‘And what else…’ is a really powerful way of staying curious a little longer. If you want to read more in this genre try Nancy Klein ‘time to think’.Thank you Michael for your energy, positivity and fun approach to your workBuy this book, read it once and then dip in and out to check your progress to Taming the Advice Monster – that’s my advice!!! So over to you how do you think you will get the most from it.
Cesar –
I do strongly recommend this book for anyone interested in getting better. The principles apply to everything in life’s and actually to everyone.
Edgard Jaramillo –
As I expected, a practical book (again) by MBS.
U. Dinic –
The book is just great. Opening new perspectives, put you in ease and discomfort at the same time, and can bring benefits directly to you and the workplace.