What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
$0.00
Related Products
“[Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry] are both capable, likable narrators who are sincerely engaged with their subject matter…The performances of these two humanitarians make this a must-hear for anyone recovering from their traumatic past.” —AudioFile
This program is read by the authors.
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey
This audiobook is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the audiobook, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
A Macmillan Audio production from Flatiron Books
7 reviews for What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Add a review
$0.00
Leigh Ann Harris –
A must read….personally validating
The photo I shared is how my personal childhood trauma played out as an adult when I was 47. This book validates the experiences I had, and that in fact, I’m not an exception at all. My hope and prayer is that with this being on Oprah’s list of 2021 best gifts that more folks will take the time to understand how in fact their past can and does play out in their life and in their relationships with others. The best gift any of us can give our children is to break generational cycles of abuse, neglect, and negative patterns. We can’t do that without an understanding of how our brains work to deal with trauma we have experienced in our lives. Dr. Perry and Oprah take such a complicated topic and give concrete examples to help folks who haven’t had exposure to this topic have a better understanding. You more than likely have had adverse experiences in your life that impact your current relationships. This book will help you have a better understanding of how past experiences play out in current relationships. Additionally, there are examples of how folks have overcome great adversities to go on and thrive. What happens to us doesn’t have to define us or our future, we each need to process our past, understand how a wrong, injustice, or adversity, has shaped our worldview, and then make the decision to learn and grow from the experience. It’s not easy, and I don’t think in the book they allude to the fact that it is, it’s very difficult, but as I’ve come to learn in life, probably like most folks, the rewards come after the difficult work/journeys. Nothing worthwhile in life is usually easy.My personal experience, I was brought up in a middle class white family, graduated college at 23, and on to work full-time, a fulfilling career, until my childhood trauma was triggered when I felt bullied by a $3trillion company. I suffered from dissociative trauma, as a child, fight or flight were not options to the significant abuse I suffered. This bully triggered the bully from my childhood that significantly abused me and I took all the anger from my childhood bully and placed it on this company. Whether I was right or wrong in feeling bullied is moot, book will point to that. I resigned from a career at this company of 11 years, a good career, and went on to file multiple lawsuits consuming two years of my life, the picture shows I took the case all the way to The Supreme Court of the US, after I was rejected in every other court. You see the child who did not have a voice when she was being abused, was determined this time to be heard, hence all the lawsuits begging someone to see how I was being bullied. I wasn’t successful, every court denied to allow me to go to discovery, which just again, reactivated my childhood trauma of not being heard. This started for me in 2014, it would take me 4 years to walk through the doors of a trauma counselor where I would connect all the dots and be flooded with past memories, experience PTSD, body sensations, and here I am 3 years later, healthier and whole, but it was the most difficult process I’ve ever experienced. I was lucky, I had an incredible support system in my husband and friends but I can easily see how this type of event would cripple anyone and how they could be ostracized by friends and family, not that I didn’t experience some of that, but those who were there for me helped me overcome.So, yes, I recommend the book because all of us have experienced adversities or trauma and most folks have no idea how it is playing out in their lives today and how they are passing it down to their children. If you take the time to be openminded, reflective, and honest, you will in fact take something away that will make your life better.Thank you Dr. Perry and Oprah, for all the work you have done in this field for decades. I can’t imagine how difficult it has to be to hear so many of these stories, live it, and know it, and see how slow our society has been to address mental health. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Oprah for putting it on your 2021 list, and thank you too for sharing your personal story, how you struggled and resolved your relationship with your mother, it moved me to tears, for many reasons. May God bless you each abundantly and may His hand be upon the mission of expanding this topic of What Happened To you?Leigh Ann HarrisNorth Carolina
kmurph31 –
AUDIBLE IS A HIGHLY RECOMMENDED MEMBERSHIP THAT’S AFFILIATED WITH AMAZON!
THIS IS ANOTHER AUDIBLE PURCHASE THAT’S A KEEPER! The title is called “WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU,” and it’s a collaboration that’s sold over 100,000 copies on the AMAZON WEBSITE ALONE. I wanted this one since it’s so well written by OPRAH WINFREY, and a MEDICAL DOCTOR whose work SPECIALIZES in TRAUMA. I had wanted this both in KINDLE FORM & AUDIBLE FORMAT! It’s very informative, and that 100,000 copies sold on AMAZON IS WELL OVER THAT AMOUNT OF FIVE STAR RATINGS. I urge anybody who has gone through any type of trauma, big or small to buy it, because it’s a valuable resource. I knew about the male Doctor that is a SPECIALIST, in the BRAIN BIOCHEMISTRY & ANATOMY of the ENTIRE NERVOUS SYSTEM since going back over twenty or more years ago, and he’s very talented AUTHOR, as well as making his work with the brain and nervous system accessible to those who don’t have a SCIENTIFIC background. He’s very compassionate, and humble, and WORLD FAMOUS which I remembered loving that book he wrote which this I bought in hardcover since there were no such things as digital books. I’m going to purchase it in KINDLE & AUDIBLE and he fascinated me with his NON FICTION title called, “THE BOY WHO WAS RAISED BY A DOG.” It could be any trauma, such as a car accident, or those who’ve served in the Military, PTSD or COMPLEX PTSD, who might not even know they have it, and I’m not going to say much more about OPRAH WINFREY, since you’d have to be living under a rock, to not be familiar with her philanthropic endeavors always trying to give back, and she doesn’t need the money. She shares her knowledge with anything that she finds is information that is going to be helpful to the world. I listen to AUDIO books in NON FICTION only. I have been an AUDIBLE member since at least ten years, but more than that which I recommend as a way of listening to books while driving, or while you’re busy doing something else at the same time. It’s affiliated with AMAZON, and the people who work there are phenomenal. They are super helpful and very friendly, which I don’t do, but I just might when I have the time, since I bought a book that I’m never going to listen to. Like I said I don’t usually return things because it’s too time consuming, but I am starting to use more AUDIO books, lately, and I bought the wrong book, that I never listened to it, so that’s another thing I have to decide to take the time, if I can get it done, but I probably won’t. If for any reason you don’t like the book, or the narrator you can return it for a credit without any hassle, and you can either exchange it for a different choice, or save it as a credit. It’s only $14.99 per month, but if you don’t read a book a month, you can do the plan for every two months. The AUDIBLE book titles are yours to keep, and you can buy it and listen to it a year from now or anytime. I highly recommend joining because a lot of books cost more than 14.99, and you can’t return them.
Amy –
excelente libro, se entiende cómo funciona el cerebro muy bien con todos los ejemplos que tiene. Recomiendo 100%
Luis A Ibarra Pardo –
Muy ilustrativo leer acerca de la importancia del trauma, sus consecuencias y su tratamiento. Ojalá y en la sociedad estuviéramos más informados al respecto. Como se explica en el libro, todo lo q hacemos al final tiene que ver con lo que nos pasó en el pasado. La importancia de nuestras figuras de apego mientras crecemos no puede ser enfatizada lo suficiente. Ojalá todos podamos ser esos adultos que tienen empatía por el de enfrente y podamos formar conexiones sanadoras. Con las explicaciones del Dr. Perry y Oprah, estaremos más cerca de concientizarnos al respecto.
Mary Collin –
I loved the clear explanations in this book. It’s easy to follow the conventional style of the two authors and narrators.Well laid out and hugely educational and thought-provoking.I have the audible and kindle versions along with the accompanying PDF.Took me a while to finish the audible version – mainly because it was so interesting I kept repeating chapters to let it sink in.I want to share this with so many people – it’s packed with wisdom.I switched between reading and listening. I’ll now go back and read it right through on kindle.Highly recommended 🙏🥰
Huda Jamaleddine –
Reading this œuvre has made me realize key points of my life. I finally understand and accept that, whatever happened to me during my youth, especially as a teenager and young adult, shaped me into what I am today. It somehow gave me the strength to move on and build a loving family of my own.
E –
Not original and not hardcover . I ordered a hardcover and got a paper back. The printing also is very bad and unclear.