Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
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Boundaries is the book that’s helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.
Does your life feel like it’s out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone’s requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others’ feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you’ve forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it’s all of the above.
In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.
Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?What are legitimate boundaries?How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn’t control me?What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?Aren’t boundaries selfish?
You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!
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The Boundaries books have transformed marriages, families, organizations, and individuals around the world, with over 4 million copies sold.
Some people focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. That’s why the ability to set clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. In relationships, boundaries define who we are and who we are not, which impacts every part of our lives.
Publisher : Zondervan
Publication date : October 3, 2017
Edition : Enlarged
Language : English
Print length : 352 pages
ISBN-10 : 0310351804
ISBN-13 : 978-0310351801
Item Weight : 10.4 ounces
Dimensions : 5.44 x 0.96 x 8.48 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #1,581 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #8 in Christian Self Help #10 in Christian Personal Growth #33 in Christian Spiritual Growth (Books)
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0z –
Easy to read, and universally applicable
Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend has been a Godsend. We all have hurts, habits, and hang-ups, and our individual experiences create different perspectives. These differing views often create blind spots in our lives, and Boundaries has helped me become aware of many of those so that I can begin the hard work of fixing some of those unseen broken parts of my life. Beyond that, it gives us the tools needed in the process, not just a clearer lens to see the problems with. Overall, a wonderful book that I think everyone would benefit from reading.
Chelsea –
Fantastic book. 10/10
Fantastic book. Everyone should read it.My husband and I have enjoyed reading a chapter 2 at a time and discussing it in depth. This book has helped us with navigating chronically, difficult family relationships within the past year. Since implementing new boundaries, the heaviness and frustration that always loomed around said relationships is now gone.
Kym McNabney –
EVERYONE MUST READ THIS BOOK
DR HENRY CLOUD has been a guest speaker at my church on more than one occasion over the years. He’s an amazing speaker, and seems like a genuinely nice guy. When I heard about BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, WHEN TO SAY NO – TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE by DR HENRY CLOUD AND JOHN TOWNSEND, I decided to purchase it.I’m sorry to say I let it sit on my bookshelf for some time before finally reading it. Once I got started, I quickly realized what a treasure I’d stumbled upon. There’s so much good stuff packed into 304 pages, I can’t begin to cover it all. I will say that I have more dog-eared paged in BOUNDARIES, then I do in any other book I’ve ever owned.I didn’t realize I had boundaries issues until I read this book. There wasn’t a chapter I didn’t get something out of it or couldn’t connect with. I had thought about skipping the section on “Boundaries and Work”, since I’m no longer in the work field. I would have missed out if I had. It was a real eye opener to when I had worked, and packed with wonderful information if I ever decided to return to working.Boundaries are needed in all parts of our lives including, our family, friends, spouses, kids, and those we work with. We as individuals need to set our own boundaries as well. To not do so would only be cheating oneself. We also need to recognize that God has boundaries as well.BOUNDARIES will teach you all you need to know about boundaries in all aspects of your life, and how to apply them properly. I love the reference to Christianity, but even if you’re not a believer, I highly recommend this book.My copy of BOUNDARIES is filled with highlights, parentheses, and astericks. If I had to pinpoint the most valuable piece of information I took away, it would have to be in a paragraph on page 89.“What you can do is influence others. But there is a trick. Since you cannot get them to change, you must change yourself so that their destructive patterns no longer work on you. Change your way of dealing with them; they may be motivated to change if their old ways no longer work.”What amazing advice. How often do we gripe and groan about others? How often do we try to change others, whether in the way they act or what they say? And more importantly … how often do our efforts have a positive result? On page 89, BOUNDARIES teaches us that we are the ones that need to make a change, and by doing so, we may be instrumental in changing other’s life.I can’t even begin to guess how many people I’ve recommended this wonderful book too, packed full of knowledge for every person, written in a way that anyone can grasp. It’s a book that will remain in my home indefinitely.
Theresa Wolff –
Great read
Great book. Gives you a lot to think about !! And ways to help. Would and do recommend it to others
Ella –
Very helpful for people-pleasers and codependents.
Definitely one of those game changer books for the people pleasers, those who give so much but end up resentful because other’s do not do the same in return. This book spoke to many of the experiences i have faced including one-sides friendships and allowing myself to be taken advantage of to the point of leading to depression. I have set many boundaries with courage and it has brought a lot of peace. I learned the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation and how to avoid and address the guilt that comes with saying no. I was confused by the use of certain scriptures where it felt the meaning was stretched to fit the narrative in some places so I reduced by one star but that did not take away from being able to learn and apply the principles in this book. Thank you to Dave Ramsey for dropping this book as a recommendation.
Karen –
Life-Changing Advice on Building Healthy Boundaries
This book is a game-changer! Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend provide practical and compassionate guidance for anyone struggling to set boundaries in their personal or professional life.The updated edition includes insights into modern challenges like digital boundaries, which I found particularly relevant. The authors use relatable examples and a straightforward writing style that makes the concepts easy to grasp and implement.What stood out to me most was how they emphasized that boundaries are not about shutting people out but about taking responsibility for your own well-being. It’s empowering to realize that saying “no” is not selfish—it’s essential for healthy relationships and a balanced life.I also appreciated the integration of biblical principles, which added a layer of depth for me. However, even if you’re not religious, the lessons are universally applicable.This book has helped me improve my relationships, reduce stress, and feel more in control of my life. Highly recommend to anyone looking to reclaim their time and energy while building stronger, healthier connections with others.
Jenni –
So well written and applicable!! I want to give this book to so many of my friends. A real insight into people’s behavior and an aid in dealing with people.
kingsley –
A must read. Not a Christian, No problem. You can still learn the principles in this book and use them to change your life.
Make-A-Holic –
I needed this book when I got married. WOW!!!
becca –
I see myself so accurately in this book, struggling with boundaries and experiencing overwelms as a result. I am fully convinced by the necessity of growing in boundaries. And I learnt the very practical steps to make that happen. This book is trully inspiring and helpful, a must read for everyone who struggles with chaos and relational resentment.
Ana Villegas –
Amazing book!